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Being emancipated.

Binarycow

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Anyone know anything about this? I know that if you are emancipated, then you can move out of your house before you turn 18. Well, the reason that I'm asking is that my father is an abusive person (verbally and physically) and my mom is trying to drown her problems away with vodka (3 1.75 liter bottles a week (god damn!!)). Today, my mom came up to me, and asked me if I would be emancipated, and move out. The thing is... I dont know what to do. I have no clue what would happen. I know I would have a few places to go to, which isn't a problem. I know that I'll be getting work soon, so I would have a little money to support myself, and things otherwise. I just dont know what I should do. I really hate my home life, but will I be able to make it in the big world...? :( :( :confused:
 
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That really fucking sucks. But it really should depend on HOW ...abusive your father is. talk to other adults about it, they surely can help :thumbsup:
 

Binarycow

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Yeah, hes pretty abusive. I remember, once, I pulled a C in my math class, and he kicked me into a corner of the kitchen, and kept kicking. Then, this one time, my dad kicked my monitor with some steel toed boots (it worked fine, but it died recently :( ), and then punched me in the face.
 

Brain Spout

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couldnt help it, i had that image laying around my computer. on a serious note getting emancipated is a bad idea and your parents can't force you to do it. it's usually something that someone seeks to do to get rid of their parents. the worst your parents can do (besides beating or killing you) if having you taken away or giving you away to foster parents. or you could live with your god parents. this all probably varies from state to state. im stating it as i know the law in NJ, but if you are not from here it may be different
 

ferengi

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Binarycow said:
Yeah, hes pretty abusive. I remember, once, I pulled a C in my math class, and he kicked me into a corner of the kitchen, and kept kicking. Then, this one time, my dad kicked my monitor with some steel toed boots (it worked fine, but it died recently :(), and then punched me in the face.
Ever considered calling the police when he does that shit?

Also, try to get your mom som help. Contact alcoholics anonymous and see if they can help you. Other than that, I'm not sure what to tell you. The real world isn't any easier. Unless you have somebody else to move in with, you're kind of screwed.
 

Binarycow

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The thing is, I have no relatives. We moved here from Russia about 13 years ago, and so were the ones and only. My sister has too much of her own trouble. Shes married, just had a kid, and working on her Ph.D, so I dont think I'll be getting help from her. Also, I know that my parents cant force me to do anyhting I dont want to (cleaning my room (just kidding)). Also, what are god parents. I've never understood what this term meant. I've heard it, just never understood how it works. Also, I wouldn't want to call the police. I love my family, but I hate them, if you get what I mean.
 

Brain Spout

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then you probably have none. when you are baptised as a christian your godparents hold you as the priest pours the holy water on you. your godparents then are basically next in line to take care of you after your parents. for a better definition see the movie: The Godfather, or a dictionary...
 

ferengi

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Binarycow said:
The thing is, I have no relatives. We moved here from Russia about 13 years ago, and so were the ones and only. My sister has too much of her own trouble. Shes married, just had a kid, and working on her Ph.D, so I dont think I'll be getting help from her. Also, I know that my parents cant force me to do anyhting I dont want to (cleaning my room (just kidding)). Also, what are god parents. I've never understood what this term meant. I've heard it, just never understood how it works. Also, I wouldn't want to call the police. I love my family, but I hate them, if you get what I mean.
You may not want to call the police but you eventually may have to, for the sake of your safety. Think of it as "tough love." The only way your dad is going to get control of his anger is if he sees that there are consequences for acting on it.
 

Brain Spout

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im not so sure that advice is as sound as it seams. with the way child services are these days this could be a whole lot of shit if he calls the police. getting counseling is a far wiser idea, if it can be feasibly done.
 

Icarus

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My mom worked with emancipated youth for a long time. It's not romantic and it's not glamorous. Emancipated youth are emancipated because it was their only option, not something their mom suggested. If you feel that becoming an emancipated youth is your only option, then be sure to plan everything very well before you leave your nest.

Good luck to you and your family.
 

ferengi

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WizardlyFriend said:
im not so sure that advice is as sound as it seams. with the way child services are these days this could be a whole lot of shit if he calls the police. getting counseling is a far wiser idea, if it can be feasibly done.
I agree. Get the dad into anger management and mom into Alcoholics Anonymous and you'll be all set. However, don't hesitate to call the police if your dad steps over the line. If he gets more abusive and even goes so far as to use weapons, and you fear for your well being, you may have no other choice. Not saying this is the be-all end-all advice for the situation, but it's something that might need to be done if it boils right down to it.
 

Binarycow

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Icarus said:
My mom worked with emancipated youth for a long time. It's not romantic and it's not glamorous. Emancipated youth are emancipated because it was their only option, not something their mom suggested. If you feel that becoming an emancipated youth is your only option, then be sure to plan everything very well before you leave your nest.

Good luck to you and your family.
I know that it wouldn't be glamorous at all. I know what hardships I would have to endure to get myself back on my feet. I still have fucking college to go to, and without any support from family, my life is going to be a bitch untill I get an education. I wasn't expecting anything better than me finding a friends house to stay at while I rack up some money, and then try to find an apartment with some people. I'm still expecting the worst from being emancipated.
 

JLXC

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I left home at 17 and never looked back, without any emancipation. You can just bail out, find a place to stay, and then never talk to those dumb ass parents again. You can get a job and all if you have a driver's license, they'll never bother you for parents permission. Just do what you know is right.
 

magnolia

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Being emancepated means that you are now legally responsible for yourself. You have to buy your own food, pay your own rent, and take care of yourself. If you have a car and it breaks down, you have to fix it. You are basically on your own. I think it takes an extremely strong person to do this. I know I never could. But if you think you can do it, it might be worth it considering your home life is so horrible.
 
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Finding a job after you get emancipated is probably the hardest part and it makes it extremely difficult to go to college because all of your money goes to living expenses. Tough decision...Talk to any school councilor.