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Cowardism/No Luck

Rurrouni

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I really haven't had many girlfriends, most people say I don't look that bad, not great but not bad. I usually afraid to ask girls out, always afraid of stupid rejection while I get rejected at other things and laugh. Not only that but I really don't find anyone at my school that I really like, or for that matter anyone around me which makes it even harder. I'm kinda stuck in this place and it's starting to eat at me. I don't care for responses I just wanted to get this off my chest, that's what this sites for anway.
 

ChilianFuckFace

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If you really don't like any of the girls at your school, why not pratice with them? If you dont't like them, you shouldn't care their rejection. Ask them out and see what happens. The best thing that can happen is that you get laid, the worse, you get rejected by a dumb bitch you didn't even like in the first place :thumbsup:
 

Rurrouni

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That's not a bad idea but it still hard to tell my mind that. It's cowardism as the thread title suggests. I really have no other fears, I could seriously laugh at death with ease but something so simple as this makes me feel weak and makes the problem even worse.
 
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Stop thinking about it so much. There is no reason to cower from rejection. Its part of life, no one gets them all. Just have some confidence and go for it. Worrying/hesitation isn’t going to help your situation any. Besides, if it's a girl you didn't like to begin with, then why would it matter, if you got shut down?
 

Rurrouni

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Oh, I plan on doing it but It's still going to be hard. Just need to find a girl that isn't a bitch and isn't ugly and I'll try to ask. I know the first time will make it easier afterwards, but the first is the hardest afterall.
 

el crotcho

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Yeah man, just practice on the girls you go to school with, then once you get good you can ask anyone. :thumbsup:
 

ChilianFuckFace

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Rurrouni said:
Oh, I plan on doing it but It's still going to be hard. Just need to find a girl that isn't a bitch and isn't ugly and I'll try to ask. I know the first time will make it easier afterwards, but the first is the hardest afterall.
See, you are already thinking too much about it. You want to find a girl that isn't a bitch and isn't ugly. First off I agree with the bitch part, but we must remember most girls are all bitches. Second, you need to practice with the ugly ones! Those are the easiest ones. They will probably never say no. This will boost your confidence and you can move your way up. You are suppose to practice with the ugly ones you don't like. If you try to find one you like a little bit or think she is pretty, you will get too nervous and fuck everything up.
 

Nailbomb

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I'm (sorta) with Chilianfuckface on this one. If you've never asked anyone out, going to the high-end of your expectations is a sure way to get yourself tripped up. If you're so worried about rejection, go find some girl walking around by herself at a mall or something. That way, even if she turns out to be a real bitch, you'll never have to see her again. :thumbsup:
 
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Rurrouni said:
I really haven't had many girlfriends, most people say I don't look that bad, not great but not bad. I usually afraid to ask girls out, always afraid of stupid rejection while I get rejected at other things and laugh. Not only that but I really don't find anyone at my school that I really like, or for that matter anyone around me which makes it even harder. I'm kinda stuck in this place and it's starting to eat at me. I don't care for responses I just wanted to get this off my chest, that's what this sites for anway.
Awwww, poor guy. I'll e-date you. ;) Seriously, you have to just suck it up and ask. Girls like a guy with confidence.
 

Rurrouni

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I like the mall idea, I'll see if me and my friends can head over to the big mall near by (mall's like the third biggest in the nation I believe).

Thanks for the thought Tiger but I've tried e-dating when it first really took off and I ended up forgeting about the girl and she got really pissed at me. I'd rather not do that agian, course she turned out to really be a bitch and had like 20 of her friends im me and yell at me, had to change AIM name.
 
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Rurrouni said:
I like the mall idea, I'll see if me and my friends can head over to the big mall near by (mall's like the third biggest in the nation I believe).

Thanks for the thought Tiger but I've tried e-dating when it first really took off and I ended up forgeting about the girl and she got really pissed at me. I'd rather not do that agian, course she turned out to really be a bitch and had like 20 of her friends im me and yell at me, had to change AIM name.
*cries* *winces* That had to have sucked. I was just trying to make you feel better, though. E-dating would be kind of rough I would think.
 

UberSkippy

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Dude, rejections sucks and I understand the feer of asking a chick out.

Go for the ugly ones at your school. There's benefits to that. First off, if they don't get asked a lot they're more likely to say yes. Second off, at my last reunion I noticed all the chicks that were hot are now not and all the ugo's are now hotties. And since I was at least nice to the ugly chicks they were more than willing to give me the time of day. (think of the future man)

But if you don't care about the chicks, that makes it easier. Because if you care you get all excited and goofy. If you couldn't care less you're more apt to be yourself which means that you'll get more yeses that way.
 

supposedtabeme

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Rejection is part of life.
(I'm not saying everyone is always being rejected but hey, it will happen eventually)

I'm not only saying this for the girl's problems but it's something you have to always considere in life, it happens, you don't win all the time.

So, retorical talking here, what can you loose?
 

JLXC

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Many of the above posts are right on target, but let me add. Just because you find many women "ugly" doesn't mean they are. Hear me out. Ugly women tend to have better personalities, be better in bed, and be better in the long run because they actually have to WORK for attention. Pretty girls have it handed to them on a silver platter when they are younger, and it usually is for the worse. This is not true in all cases, but in my experience, and those of my friends, this seems to be pretty true a lot. When you get into your 30's you may realize those "Ugly" girls were in no way ugly, just your perceptions at the time were so screwed up by hormones and the media you didn't realize it. Ugly can be beautiful.
 
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I found out the through the obstacles ive been through in life, that nothing really matters. Keep that in mind and you'll get what ever you want.
 

Rurrouni

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JLXC said:
Many of the above posts are right on target, but let me add. Just because you find many women "ugly" doesn't mean they are. Hear me out. Ugly women tend to have better personalities, be better in bed, and be better in the long run because they actually have to WORK for attention. Pretty girls have it handed to them on a silver platter when they are younger, and it usually is for the worse. This is not true in all cases, but in my experience, and those of my friends, this seems to be pretty true a lot. When you get into your 30's you may realize those "Ugly" girls were in no way ugly, just your perceptions at the time were so screwed up by hormones and the media you didn't realize it. Ugly can be beautiful.
I really don't precieve many of them as ugly, just no one I really like. Yes looks do matter but that's not what makes me attracted to them, they have to be nice and intelligent at least. But I find that the smart girls in my school are too buried in books and trying to be perfect and most of the others are total bitches so it's really annoying. I really haven't had much time to try these Ideas of yours of late but I'll try starting next week if I have time. (Just got a Seminar project, combined with Kenpo, and trying to start a club in school I'm going to be busy.)
 
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Just got rejected the hard way. She told me she liked me, then didn't.

Anyways I'm happier that it happened. Not asking is basically you rejecting yourself. Go for it.