My problem is I just can't talk to girls on the phone, I just am either really quiet when I attempt to talk on the phone with the opposite sex or I just try to avoid it as much as I can. With chatting online the "long silences" mean that the person is probably just talking to someone else, away from their keyboard or just doing something else at the moment. But when that happens on the phone it sucks. I just can't do it, I don't know how and I hate it!