So, last March, I started going out with a wonderful guy from England. Everything was perfect - we could talk for hours about ANYTHING, any fights we had were resolved almost immediately, and he was just a really sweet and caring guy. Over the summer, he came and visited twice (yes, this was an online relationship). We were even better in person. When he left, we were both optimistic about the future of our relationship. Until he went to university for his master's degree, that is.
After he got there, he changed. He stopped talking to me for awhile, and when we did talk, he never said "I love you", and he became more moody. He explained that it was due to stress from his degree and not knowing if he was ever going to see me again. Eventually, the difficulty of his courses forced him into a position to choose between our relationship and his degree. Even if he had tried to pick me, I wouldn't have let him. So we're not together anymore. I'm fine with that. He told me he wants to remain close to me, because he considers me to be one of his best friends. I'm fine with that, as well.
What I'm NOT fine with is the fact that he's being an absolute fucktard about this. He NEVER talks to me anymore, though he has conversations with his other friends all the time. The last time he directed any sort of comment toward me at all was last Wednesday, and even then, it was just to ask if I was still going to school. He hasn't commented in my journal in months...alright, that's a lie. He left one comment, which I have since deleted because it was spam.
Every time I try to broach the subject with him, he says "sorry. Please don't hate me or be bitter. I want to be friends with you, but I'm under so much stress." Quite frankly, I'm under a lot of stress too, but I still make time for people who consider me to be their friend. I am about ready to give up on this situation, which sucks, because he is (or at least, used to be) a really great guy.
After he got there, he changed. He stopped talking to me for awhile, and when we did talk, he never said "I love you", and he became more moody. He explained that it was due to stress from his degree and not knowing if he was ever going to see me again. Eventually, the difficulty of his courses forced him into a position to choose between our relationship and his degree. Even if he had tried to pick me, I wouldn't have let him. So we're not together anymore. I'm fine with that. He told me he wants to remain close to me, because he considers me to be one of his best friends. I'm fine with that, as well.
What I'm NOT fine with is the fact that he's being an absolute fucktard about this. He NEVER talks to me anymore, though he has conversations with his other friends all the time. The last time he directed any sort of comment toward me at all was last Wednesday, and even then, it was just to ask if I was still going to school. He hasn't commented in my journal in months...alright, that's a lie. He left one comment, which I have since deleted because it was spam.
Every time I try to broach the subject with him, he says "sorry. Please don't hate me or be bitter. I want to be friends with you, but I'm under so much stress." Quite frankly, I'm under a lot of stress too, but I still make time for people who consider me to be their friend. I am about ready to give up on this situation, which sucks, because he is (or at least, used to be) a really great guy.
