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Problems between the Sheets.

#1
It is not to say that I do not love our sex, I do, its fun and for the most part he is very good at what he is willing to do…but we have our differences. The starkest is of course my love of pain and all together being humiliated by lovers. He absolutely refuses to leave any mark, he will not tie me up, he will not take part in Irrumatio (Face fucking) he refuses to hit, gag, cut me, masturbate with me or bukakke (Which he has explained to me about the bukakke), and so much more indeed. It is a bit of domming from the bottom on my part, I mean, honestly, I’ve practically begged for him to be rough but each time he refuses to be so with me. I am not going to force his hand, but I am not objecting to coaxing him, any suggestions?
 

swizeguy

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#2
hmm i have never really heard of that situation before. I dont know, i know where that guy is comming from. I would never, NEVER hit my g/f. I could just never bring myself to be rough with her. I mean im not saying that i wont grab her and get stuff done but i have never left a mark and will never intentionally do so. But if you really want it that badly talk to him about it i guess. I dont know if that will do anything. I know if my girl asked me for that i would be just speachless really. lol thats a hell of a request... sorry i cant help ya?
 

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#3
Honestly, this is the strangest thing I've ever heard. Just talk to him I guess. Not really anything else you can do.
 
#4
Hah, any advice is help, I'll give the talking another go. I'm not asking him to you know beat me black and blue, but little slaps, I have a spanking fetish that I'll admit to, he won't even do that! He was quite speechless as well ... I'm not sure if it was such a good silence.
 

tkme2thebedroom

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#5
Hmm...watch a porno with him about all that stuff and get him really hot and bothered by bringing a whip and wearing leather and a girdle. Then maybe get someone else to do these things to you in front of him and show him how much you like him. I'll give you a hand, if you like!
 

swizeguy

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#8
I still just have never heard of such a problem?? is it a problem? i dunno :confused:
 
#9
It is a problem. I'm practically bored with him, it is always the same between the two of us, me on bottom he on top, missionary. It isn't really about my wants anymore it is about how, well things get dull if you don't spice it up eventually, I love him, I love absolutely everything about him, except for the fact that he is always gentle. Our sex has gotten to the point where I am pleading head ache to escape from the monotony our sex lives have taken.
 

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Well the best advice is to talk to him, and let him know in all seriousness that this is important to you. If he wont listen, then let him know that you need more, he may think you're not totally serious. Plus any man who would not face fuck his woman begging him to is not to be taken seriously himself IMO.
 

tkme2thebedroom

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JLXC said:
Well the best advice is to talk to him, and let him know in all seriousness that this is important to you. If he wont listen, then let him know that you need more, he may think you're not totally serious. Plus any man who would not face fuck his woman begging him to is not to be taken seriously himself IMO.
You make me smile. Repped.
 

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LittleRedBook said:
It is a problem. I'm practically bored with him, it is always the same between the two of us, me on bottom he on top, missionary. It isn't really about my wants anymore it is about how, well things get dull if you don't spice it up eventually, I love him, I love absolutely everything about him, except for the fact that he is always gentle. Our sex has gotten to the point where I am pleading head ache to escape from the monotony our sex lives have taken.
If rough sex is really that important to you, then just find someone who enjoys it.

This seems to be an issue that's really bothering you. This relationship isn't going to last if things continue as they are.
 
#16
I plan on talking to him the next time I see him, I just hpe the conversation stays friendly and, well, to be honest the reason I haven't left him to find somebody else to fulfill my more violent tastes is simply because we do have a good thing, I know with the way I've been bitching in this thread doesn't lead anyone to believe it, but in ever other aspect we are perfect for each other. Thanks JLXC, that does make me smile quite a bit.
 

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#17
Start to bite him occasionally when you're kissing him. If you intoduce him to how things feel on your end, he might come around. Do it slowly so you don't scare him though.
 
#19
it will happen.. but it will take some time. i was in your husbans shoes not that long ago (still am in some parts..). Start off with light spanking then hard spanking... then try a wooden spoon.... weed helps too, becuase with weed or alchahol you are willing to do more thing then when you are sober..

or start fuckin' directly after a fight or a huge argument. and make him punish you for what you have done...

beleive me i use to be the "gentle lover" hell she just let me know a couple weeks ago that she likes to be strangled... Now that was an eye opener for me... but it will take some time... or watch some very hardcore porn like "Max Hardcore". i love choking my wife out while fuckin her in the ass.... that shit gets me every time..
 

tkme2thebedroom

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#20
Also, you might wanna play some groovy french tunes. (get it? eh? I know you do, me girl.) If that doesn't work...try German death metal. Never fails. Dudes screaming NEIN! good shit, man...in many of the songs by this one band the guy is singing about smacking up his bitch and going all night long. Try that. Nothing works well without mood music, wouldn't you agree?