Ok, well my ex broke up with me awhile ago after a year but told me she still loved me and all that crap and we even still acted like bf/gf and kissed and watched movies together for like a month afterwards...but after a while we didnt do it that much.. but then she told me that we could go back out after being friends for a while. I bought it...but like always it was BS.
The night right after she said that shit to me she goes to this party with this "hot" guy that she used to have a crush on like 2 years ago and who she said she sort of liked when she broke up with me. He is nothing like me, (he doesnt care about anyones feelings and shit like that) and is defenitely no better than me. They aren't going out or anything, though, but I know she "really likes him" because she "felt really close to him that night".
I wasn't there, but people have told me that they were getting really "close" and someone even told me they kissed but I really doubt they did. She said that they didn't and I dont think she would lie about that at least, to my face. I know she really likes him now though.
So she comes home from the party and is all like yeah it was fun blah blah but doesnt tell me about her and the guy even though I suspected something and asked her if something went on that I should know about. And then we start talking about going back out and she stilllll tells me the same shit. "We just have to be friends for now until things get better then we can think about going back out". All lies...again.
So 2 days later after hearing about them gettin all close at the party, I text her and say "You like (the guy) dont you..." and so it starts a fight where she is saying "you dont need to know about everything i do" and me saying "well you didnt have to lie to me about it and lead me on" and shes like "what i never lied to you or led you on!" (yeah saying i love you really isnt leading someone on) and so we are fighting all evening... and she said alota shit that I never would have thought to have come out of her mouth.
After it all I decide that she has changed and that I dont need to deal with her anymore...so I say to her "I dont want to talk to you anymore... I dont like you anymore and I dont think we should even be friends because I cant trust you"
And the next day after school, we fight again and she is saying "you dont need to be asking all of MY friends about what I did with (him) at the party its none of your business" (cuz i asked a few people if they knew about it) and im thinking how is it not my business? She tells me she still loves me and then goes and is with a guy all night and likes him and lies to me about it. Dont I have a right to know whats going on?
I havent talked to her like two days now... but now I am actually really worried about her with this guy. He says he doesnt like her but I think he sort of does. But the truth is I know he is bad news.. apparently he was drunk at the party (something my ex would never put up with if she knew) and is the kind of guy that will dump her after a week or 2 when hes done gettin what he wants. I guess his flrityness has made her blind because she used to know that he wasnt a good guy. I am just worried that she is going to get either seriously hurt or maybe used... I mean i honestly still care about her but I cant put up with her bitchyness any longer. I was jealos before but now I dont give a fuck.
I tried to tell her she shouldnt like him before but she just kept telling me "get out of my personal life its none of your business"... So I havnt said anything to her for a while. I just dont know what to do now.
Is she being the immature one here or am I? Should I just let her keep liking this guy and hope she learns her lesson, or be her friend and keep trying to get her to realize what an asshole he is even if she gets mad at me even more? And even though she broke my heart, lied to me, liked an asshole over me, and told me to fuck myself should I still try to be there for her if she gets into trouble? Or has she just gone a different way than me and needs to be left alone?
Should I continue to leave her alone and let her do whatever or try to talk to her and be her friend?
Sorry that was so god damn long..i just had to get it all out... and thanks if you actually take the time to help me.
The night right after she said that shit to me she goes to this party with this "hot" guy that she used to have a crush on like 2 years ago and who she said she sort of liked when she broke up with me. He is nothing like me, (he doesnt care about anyones feelings and shit like that) and is defenitely no better than me. They aren't going out or anything, though, but I know she "really likes him" because she "felt really close to him that night".
I wasn't there, but people have told me that they were getting really "close" and someone even told me they kissed but I really doubt they did. She said that they didn't and I dont think she would lie about that at least, to my face. I know she really likes him now though.
So she comes home from the party and is all like yeah it was fun blah blah but doesnt tell me about her and the guy even though I suspected something and asked her if something went on that I should know about. And then we start talking about going back out and she stilllll tells me the same shit. "We just have to be friends for now until things get better then we can think about going back out". All lies...again.
So 2 days later after hearing about them gettin all close at the party, I text her and say "You like (the guy) dont you..." and so it starts a fight where she is saying "you dont need to know about everything i do" and me saying "well you didnt have to lie to me about it and lead me on" and shes like "what i never lied to you or led you on!" (yeah saying i love you really isnt leading someone on) and so we are fighting all evening... and she said alota shit that I never would have thought to have come out of her mouth.
After it all I decide that she has changed and that I dont need to deal with her anymore...so I say to her "I dont want to talk to you anymore... I dont like you anymore and I dont think we should even be friends because I cant trust you"
And the next day after school, we fight again and she is saying "you dont need to be asking all of MY friends about what I did with (him) at the party its none of your business" (cuz i asked a few people if they knew about it) and im thinking how is it not my business? She tells me she still loves me and then goes and is with a guy all night and likes him and lies to me about it. Dont I have a right to know whats going on?
I havent talked to her like two days now... but now I am actually really worried about her with this guy. He says he doesnt like her but I think he sort of does. But the truth is I know he is bad news.. apparently he was drunk at the party (something my ex would never put up with if she knew) and is the kind of guy that will dump her after a week or 2 when hes done gettin what he wants. I guess his flrityness has made her blind because she used to know that he wasnt a good guy. I am just worried that she is going to get either seriously hurt or maybe used... I mean i honestly still care about her but I cant put up with her bitchyness any longer. I was jealos before but now I dont give a fuck.
I tried to tell her she shouldnt like him before but she just kept telling me "get out of my personal life its none of your business"... So I havnt said anything to her for a while. I just dont know what to do now.
Is she being the immature one here or am I? Should I just let her keep liking this guy and hope she learns her lesson, or be her friend and keep trying to get her to realize what an asshole he is even if she gets mad at me even more? And even though she broke my heart, lied to me, liked an asshole over me, and told me to fuck myself should I still try to be there for her if she gets into trouble? Or has she just gone a different way than me and needs to be left alone?
Should I continue to leave her alone and let her do whatever or try to talk to her and be her friend?
Sorry that was so god damn long..i just had to get it all out... and thanks if you actually take the time to help me.