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Well holy shit, this is my first time back to good ole Wtf.com in a while. Wow have things changed...or maybe not all that much.
My problem of course lies with my significant other. We have dated for a little bit over a month now. I understand that she is going to poke and prode with little tests every now and then. So far i am guessing that i passed them all. Seeing as...well shit happened. Lately she has been picking little fights, or has been...distant. The other night she called while a friend was over, and half talked to both of us. We have not had a fight previous to last night. She continued to turn everything, and i mean everything against me. We hung up in anger, and 5 minuets later I called her. I did not yell, but i told her that i was not interested in little mind games, and that if she had anything to say to me, to say it to me.
Anyway, we talked today and it seemed to be alright. I just want a little bit of advice here. What should i do..if anything?
 

magnolia

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I'd say one, it's only been a month. There is no need for mind games. Two, I half talk to people all the time. Especially if there are two or more people in the room. I'd say you did the right thing. But maybe she isn't playing mind games. Maybe she's just being herself. I don't know. Don't always assume that she's playing mind tricks on you. But if she is, you probobly don't want to be with that anyway for very long. Good luck.
 

zbuzz

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I`m sorry, but what are these "mind games" anyway? Is it when you talk bullshit just to see how the other reacts or what?
 

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Well, she would take whatever i'd say, and turn it around to be hurtfull in some way. I know it seems pretty pathetic, but it hurt. I really care about this girl...call my foolish or whatever. Most of the mind games are to see how I would react to certain things and such. I am a pretty straight forward kinda guy, if i have something to say, i will say it. No beating around the bush, none of that crap. So when she comes at me with this tactic...I have no idea how to deal with it.
 

zbuzz

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I really can`t see the good side of mind games.. They just make people feel uncomfortable, that`s all.
When I had relationships I tried to be as true with her as possible and, when she said some encrypted shit, I just said to her - "if you want to be with me, then don`t do useless tests on me - you are no specialist to tell me what I tried to express with my reactions, anyway - I know better about myself than you".