This might have been covered before, but after recently having an hour long argument with my mom I thought I'd bring it up again.
When I was a kid, if I did something wrong, I got a spanking. Not a continuous beating, but four or five swats on the butt and a stern "NO!" from my mom. I may not have liked it at the time, but when I look back on it I'm glad my mom took the time and loved me enough to discipline me and make sure I knew the difference between right and wrong. I turned out to be a very great person because of it.
I remember when this wasn't even an issue. I remember when I was a kid and saw another kid acting up in the store, I'd think to myself "ooooh, he's gonna get it when his mom gets him home." But these days, if people so much look at their kids crooked it's considered abuse! WTF??? Shouldn't it be considered abuse to NOT discipline your kids? I mean let's face it, discipline teaches a child that there are boundaries: they can't do whatever they want and get away with it.
It seems to me like a good spanking would be a hell of a lot more of a deturrent to a kid than "oh, if I get in trouble for cussing at the teacher in school, I lose phone priveleges for a month..."
If that's all they have to be afraid of, what's to stop them from doing more severe things and thinking nothing of it? I think this is what leads kids to destructive behavior: Not realizing the severity of the consequences of their actions, and thinking they deserve special treatment even when they DO know they're doing something wrong.
My mom is trying the whole "loss of priveleges" thing with my little brother, and it's not working at all. His grades in school are plummeting, he still throws fits in the store (and he's almost 12 years old), and he's very disrespectful to the adults in the family. I have NO idea why mom all of a sudden switched her parenting methods from spanking with me, to this pansy ass bullshit with my little brother, but it's not working, and if she doesn't get strict with him soon, he's going down a road to nowhere. I hate to see it happening, but you can't tell my mom ANYTHING... she's always right, and everyone else is wrong... *sigh*
Oh well, not my problem I guess. I'm just lucky I grew up when people weren't afraid to discipline their kids and teach them right from wrong effectively.
When I was a kid, if I did something wrong, I got a spanking. Not a continuous beating, but four or five swats on the butt and a stern "NO!" from my mom. I may not have liked it at the time, but when I look back on it I'm glad my mom took the time and loved me enough to discipline me and make sure I knew the difference between right and wrong. I turned out to be a very great person because of it.
I remember when this wasn't even an issue. I remember when I was a kid and saw another kid acting up in the store, I'd think to myself "ooooh, he's gonna get it when his mom gets him home." But these days, if people so much look at their kids crooked it's considered abuse! WTF??? Shouldn't it be considered abuse to NOT discipline your kids? I mean let's face it, discipline teaches a child that there are boundaries: they can't do whatever they want and get away with it.
It seems to me like a good spanking would be a hell of a lot more of a deturrent to a kid than "oh, if I get in trouble for cussing at the teacher in school, I lose phone priveleges for a month..."
If that's all they have to be afraid of, what's to stop them from doing more severe things and thinking nothing of it? I think this is what leads kids to destructive behavior: Not realizing the severity of the consequences of their actions, and thinking they deserve special treatment even when they DO know they're doing something wrong.
My mom is trying the whole "loss of priveleges" thing with my little brother, and it's not working at all. His grades in school are plummeting, he still throws fits in the store (and he's almost 12 years old), and he's very disrespectful to the adults in the family. I have NO idea why mom all of a sudden switched her parenting methods from spanking with me, to this pansy ass bullshit with my little brother, but it's not working, and if she doesn't get strict with him soon, he's going down a road to nowhere. I hate to see it happening, but you can't tell my mom ANYTHING... she's always right, and everyone else is wrong... *sigh*
Oh well, not my problem I guess. I'm just lucky I grew up when people weren't afraid to discipline their kids and teach them right from wrong effectively.