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When I come home today my grandmother may be dead...

Descent

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My grandmother came home from rehab and is now on the verge of death. She has congestive heart failure and she may die today, in two years, etc.

However, now I feel she may die today. She had a stroke when I was about one or so and lost the ability to speak well. She can only say a few words, but she could communicate great via other means, such as pen/paper, vocal sounds that conveyed emotions as well as words, etc. They weren't animal like at all - they sounded human unlike some stroke victims. It's hard to have all these thoughts in your head and never express them fully.

She's on a loud oxygen machine, she's intestinally ill rom the heart medications, and there are other things going on I don't know about yet. She's barely even able to sleep.

When we moved into Dix Hills from Wheatley Heights in 2002, it was for her, because my grandfather (Her Husband) was dying of lung cancer and was extremely ill. Six days after moving in, he died. We had to take care of her.

Soon, my mother will have no parents left. My father's mother is in rehab from an aortic valve transplant, but making a remarkable recovery. My father saw her right after her operation and her face was more lifted and everything, and it looked like ten years had melted off of her. She's home now but can't go up stairs yet.

I'm so depressed you have no clue, and I'd just love to sit down and cry now, but no guidance counselors are in today.
 

BklynCannonball

pffffffffffttttttttttt...
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I'm sorry to hear about your grandma. She sounds like a strong woman. If the counselor's not around and you need someone, go find a friend with a shoulder to cry on.


Our thoughts are with you and your family.
 

Jack

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You have my empathy. It's a horrible thing to watch a loved die. Don't be ashamed to cry, no-matter where you're at.
 

Reqium

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I know exactly what you're going through. My grandma, who is 92, just had an ulcer that made her lose half her blood. Now pretty much all we can do is sit and watch her slowly writher away and die. It totally sucks. :(
 

WaFfLeS

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I know how you feel, my grandma, when I was 12 years old...Died in my hands. She was in the hospital and she had brain canser and it was slowly killing her. I was with her when she died, watching the colour leave her face, knowing there's nothing you can do about it... :(

I'm sorry to hear that, hope you get along ok...
 
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Life is life.

Everything will be alright, just give it time. :thumbsup:
 

Sektor

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Sorry to hear about your grandmother, I know how it is. I lost mine this December to diabetes.
 

Sinamon

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Sorry to hear about all this. I, too, lost a loved one to an illness that slowly killed them. Yet, this was my momma and it is a bad thing to witness. Its been about 2 years and I still have moments where I get upset and cry about it all. Our thoughts are with you.